In my teens I loved disco music (I still do!) and most weekends I would be dancing to the tunes of Heatwave, Rose Royce, Earth Wind & Fire…
30 Years Later…
My wife and I have been dancing together now for almost 3 years…The Waltz, Quickstep, Tango, Cha-Cha-Cha, Foxtrot, Rumba and Jive.
Last week we were learning a complex part (well we thought it was complex!) of the Waltz. We just couldn’t get the move right. We did struggle.
We asked the dance instructor and she wasn’t that helpful – or so we thought.
“That Instructor Is Useless”
After the class, we went home, cursing the instructor and practised for another hour.
We still struggled.
For the next few nights, we practised some more and finally last night it all came together. We came through the pain barrier. We did it! We are happy.
The dance instructor had purposely not helped too much. She wanted us to go home and practise, which we did. Her approach of not helping too much had worked.
“Let Them Discover”
Very often, when I am mentoring and my clients have a question, instead of just giving them THE answer, I ask questions and help them to “discover” the solutions on their own.
Let them struggle a bit.
Challenge their minds a bit.
Make them work a little.
It makes them remember.
A few years ago, my business mentor asked me, “Andrew, what do you think is the most important quality for a successful business owner?”
“Relationships” I replied.
“That’s important, but not the most important.”
Then my mentor said, “Persistence. It’s the ability to carry on when the chips are down”
Do you carry on when the ‘chips are down’?
Please share your views in the comments below.
P.S. A fun video of my wife and I dancing…