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Why I Deleted All Facebook and Twitter Friends

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Why I Deleted All Facebook and Twitter Friends

Me, following just a few!

Social networking has changed the face of communication forever.

Before the internet landed with a thump on to our desks, we interacted with people a lot differently to the way we do now.

Instead of losing contact with vague colleagues who you wouldn’t usually pass the time of day with once you have moved on from a role, it’s now considered perfectly normal to ‘poke’ them on Facebook, share embarrassing photos of your kids or dog through Instagram, and read all about their latest holiday when they Tweet from Barbados.

You Have Far Too Many So-Called Friends

There’s an odd kind of kudos about racking up a huge number of ‘friends’ in social networking sites.

As soon as we join a site like Facebook, we’re encouraged to hook up and befriend people whom we haven’t seen for years who just happen to be linked to our real circle of friends. This means that before we know it, our status updates, photos and stories are getting shared not just with the people we care about, but also random semi-strangers whom we may have once seen across a crowded pub, or complete strangers who are getting linked up because they happen to share the same surname.

Lose Connection With Your Real Friends

There’s nothing wrong with this, in the fact that it lets us have a way of broadening our network online.

However, have you noticed how, the more friends you accept on sites like Facebook, the more the messages from people you really do want to hear from and keep in touch with get distilled?

For example, I may have to wade through eight or nine updates from people I haven’t ever met or don’t remember meeting these days, in order to get to a message from someone I’m really interested in.

It seems as if all of the things which sites such as Facebook and Twitter were originally meant for; a clear and quick way of communicating with people whom we know, is gradually lessening. Instead we’re part of a huge online community of near-strangers with whom we are sharing sometimes personal aspects of our life, and business.

I think it’s important to sit back from time to time and assess what we want from our social networking.

For me, sites such as LinkedIn, Instagram and Twitter all serve a similar purpose. They have two important functions – to keep in touch with people I like, am interested in, and may be interested in me.

Secondly, they are all really valid ways of promoting my business, making connections with people I can learn from, and maintaining great communications channels with my customers.

Last week, I revisited my list of friends and removed most of the people I’ve fallen in to following by accident. People that I haven’t ever met, and aren’t likely to meet, are better off being unfollowed in favour of my customers, friends and peers in my industry.

That way, instead of going through my status updates and deleting messages about joining Farmville or seeing the latest update from Embarrassing Nightclub Photo of the Week, I’ll be much more likely to see and respond quickly to messages from my real social circle, and the customers I want to support.

This decision to cut down on my network is nothing personal at all – it’s just that I have a sneaking worry that if I don’t take action soon to make sure my social network is actually formed by people who form my social network, I’ll get so swamped in random updates that I won’t gain any value from my online community anymore!

It comes down to the nature of a ‘friend’.

The Oxford English Dictionary defines a friend as ‘A person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection’. For me, I like to think that as well as family and peers, it also includes my customers. The next time I’m invited to befriend someone that I have never heard of because we share a name, or link with someone who knew someone who knew someone that I may have known long ago but don’t remember, I’m going to revisit this definition and politely, but resolutely, decline!

What’s your view?

Do you only follow real friends or just about anyone?

Please share your views in the comments below.

Also, please share this post with your Facebook and Twitter friends!

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37 Responses to Why I Deleted All Facebook and Twitter Friends

  1. Debbie says:
    March 6, 2013 at 10:00 am

    Wow Andrew, this is good and I totally agree with you. Things have gotten out of hand. Just getting through the up dates on facebook is something that waste important time.

    My twitter accont got hacked into last year. I have like 29,000 tweets that were made. For me to follow others now i need to get in and delete these. I don’t have time to do this, so there it sits and I am not going to loss any sleep over it.

    Now they have this Pinterest account. I look at that and wonder why, Don’t people have better things to do with there time.

    I also agree when it comes to friends, how can you look at a picture and say that is my friend. You have never talked to them or seen them before. Are we losing site of what friends really ar?

    Thanks for the honesty, love it.
    Debbie

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  2. Corinne Edwards says:
    March 6, 2013 at 11:35 am

    Dear Andrew- An interesting viewpoint -
    BUT-

    This is a scary thought. I agree with you on the idea but I wonder what people will think when they see you have so few friends.

    (Don’t delete me)

    Will people think you are new? I know I notice if someone wants to friend me and they have only 20 friends.

    Wonder why?

    I will look forward to your report on how theis works. You will be our guinea pig.
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  3. Amy LeForge says:
    March 6, 2013 at 9:45 pm

    Hmmmm. I am going to have to ponder this more. I do agree with cutting out the people on Facebook that you don’t really know. Twitter…I use it but I only interact a little. I don’t feel bad if I go a while without checking my feed. I don’t have enough time to do everything daily, so I just do my best and don’t worry if I haven’t seen everyone’s updates everywhere. I figure the important stuff will come to my attention on its own.
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  4. Raymond Chua says:
    March 6, 2013 at 10:06 pm

    I have the same thought. The difference between you and me is, you have taken the action and I have not.

    Great article!
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  5. carolm says:
    March 6, 2013 at 11:47 pm

    Hi Andrew, I’m sorry to say, you’ve got entirely the wrong idea about Facebook and Twitter. The only reason why social networking sites exist is so that bloggers, online marketers and the network’s owners can try to make a fortune flogging stuff to people.

    For people who sign up to FB, they can spruik either Content or products. But the real money in FB is made by FB itself: flogging personal data to advertising agencies and the big Product peddlers, like Apple, for more accurate targeting of ‘customers’.

    It’s true that a lot of young people use FB to while away the hours of darkness chatting, and bullying their ‘friends’ – poor things, there’s never anything worth watching on the Tele. Homework? You’re kidding.

    Bloggers and online marketers run around chasing each other for meaningless Likes because people seem to be impressed by big numbers. People can be so disappointing.

    I do have a FB page for my blog because I was told I ‘had’ to for marketing reasons. Sadly, my poor attitude (Get with the program, Carol! – No, I just can’t) means I have almost zero Likes, almost zero ‘friends’ and FB brings me almost zero traffic.

    Also, I cannot bring myself to ‘like’ others. And I definitely could never ask someone, “Will you be my friend?” I didn’t even do that in Kindergarten, and I’m not about to start doing it now.

    I rest my case. I will be interested to see how this works out for you – if it has the same result as my approach.

    P.S. I’m prepared to make an exception in your case – a fellow FB skeptic – and so, if you are prepared to ‘Like’ me, I’ll ‘Like’ you back – besides, I do like you anyway. :) So there!
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  6. carolm says:
    March 6, 2013 at 11:50 pm

    Oops, now I’ve just seen my mug shot is already up in your ‘Likes’ gallery! How did that happen?
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  7. John Mak from Perfectdisk Review says:
    March 7, 2013 at 3:15 am

    Andrew,

    I think that a “friend” request online is different from a real friend request in the real world.

    With Facebook you click a button and you make a friend but would you open your house door and accept a request from a stranger?

    I believe you are right about that social friend – relationship. Most people they want to add friends in their Facebook or Twitter lists just because they want to look they are popular or trusted, but this is wrong!

    For example check Ferrari Magazine on Twitter. They have 30.000 followers and following only 10! Do they care? Do the followers care?

    Even if I have almost 500 followers on Twitter, I interact with only 15-20 of them.

    Thanks for sharing these thoughts!

    John
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  8. Darren says:
    March 7, 2013 at 4:43 am

    It’s like following 1000 or more on twitter. What’s the point? Unless you watch twitter 24/7 there’s no possible way to keep up.

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  9. Joel says:
    March 7, 2013 at 5:14 pm

    I’m honored to one of the ones you’re still following! I think it’s a great idea, I have nearly 500 Facebook friends nut hide 90% of all the activity. Though I do use Facebook a lot more these days because of some of the local groups I’m a member of. Hope it helps your networking!
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  10. Pat Drummond says:
    March 7, 2013 at 8:34 pm

    Ironically, deleting followers and friends is improving things for me. I’m connecting more with the people I want to connect with and these people are engaged and active on my social world. Funny how out of the millions of blogs, you are one of the few people who realized this. Great post as always. -Pat
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  11. Steve says:
    March 10, 2013 at 1:32 am

    Andrew

    I love both Twitter and Facebook and only keep to making real freinds. I hope things work out for you as it is a big change.

    Steve
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  12. Hamzah says:
    March 11, 2013 at 5:28 am

    sometimes it becomes a dilemma, when we we want to promote our products to the crowds and campaign effectiveness.
    the appropriate steps to unfollow your friends who lack support our productivity.
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  13. Robert says:
    March 11, 2013 at 10:51 pm

    Exactly!

    Facebook has been a dungeon of marketers trying to push their products to their customers. I usually get 10 private messages a month about joining their group, checking out their products, and some insurance pitches. I mean com’n Facebook is not the place for all these.

    These marketing tactics defies the purpose of facebook at all.
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  14. noman says:
    March 12, 2013 at 10:56 am

    hi Andrew – i agree with all of your points that you mentioned in this great post. Your post title is too attractive “Why I Deleted All Facebook and Twitter Friends” i must share this story with all of my friends. thanks
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  15. Rohit says:
    March 13, 2013 at 4:51 am

    nice article Andrew,
    its my first time in your blog and i love the way you’ve presented your ideas, and creativity through this blog, i noticed many unnoticeable but impacting things. like in the home page ive seen
    “Click here and read the full post (738 words, 1 image, estimated 2:57 mins reading time)”
    it made me to read the article properly..
    and another thing is that you reply to every comment in the article which is the good thing i’ve seen in your blog..
    you’ve inspired me a lot Andrew..

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  16. Sam says:
    March 14, 2013 at 10:18 pm

    Hey Andrew. I really understand what you are saying. Some of my friends on facebook have over 500 hundred friends. It seems that they friend everyone. So far on Facebook I have only connected with people that I knew or have some history with. If I received a random friend request, I would see how we were acquainted, and if they weren’t a friend, an old schoolmate, a client, or an old co-worker, I just didn’t accept the friendship. I think that approach is completely okay :)
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  17. Brosius says:
    March 17, 2013 at 2:10 pm

    Hi Andrew,

    I find this topic really interesting because I’ve never really focused on increasing the amount of friends I have. When you say that you have more control over your social networking experience, I totally agree with it, not that I know how it feels to have an incredible amount of friends on Facebook, Twitter or any other social network.

    I really enjoyed reading this post!

    -Brosius
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  18. Gaurav says:
    April 9, 2013 at 3:11 am

    Facebook does not make things like this easy. I had to literally open everybody’s individual page and unfriend them there. But I did it. And I deleted the icon from my toolbar. And today? I forgot to look for Facebook already. The habit is already partly broken.
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  19. Sudipto says:
    May 10, 2013 at 4:56 am

    Hey Andrew,
    Nice post and Thanks for sharing this post with us. Yes, Social media sites are best way to make relations with known and unknown people but I prefer to make only real friends those are my friends and I know everything about them.
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